Safe Dating for the Over 50s: Top Tips for Avoiding Older Adult Romance Scams
Author: Trend Micro
Romance scams are a category of online scams whereby individuals are deceived by someone posing as a romantic partner. These scams often begin on dating websites or social media platforms, where scammers create fake profiles to establish a connection with would-be victims. The goal is to exploit the victim emotionally — and eventually, financially. In this article, we’re primarily concerned with romance scams that target older adults. So let’s dive in.
Older Adult Romance Scams
Romance scams targeting older adults are the most common — and often the most damaging. Older adults may be more susceptible to these scams due to feelings of loneliness and isolation. Scammers capitalize on this vulnerability by offering companionship and emotional support. Older adults will also likely have more assets and saved money — meaning they can be a more lucrative target for scammers than younger adults. Furthermore, because of their age, an older adult will likely have less technical know-how, and less awareness when it comes to romance scams, phishing, and social engineering attacks in general.
Romance Scam Statistics
The following are noteworthy statistics that drive home the scale of the problem we face:
- Total losses to romance scams in the last five years amount to $1.3 billion. [FTC]
- Losses in 2017 were $87 million… skyrocketing to $547 million just four years later in 2021. [FTC]
- Average individual losses to a romance scam are between $2,400 – $4,400. [FTC]
- More than one-third of romance scams leading to monetary loss began on Facebook or Instagram. [FTC]
- The number of romance scams reported to the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) in 2021 was over three times the amount
- reported in 2017.
- Those aged 55 – 64 are most at risk, with women being more susceptible. [Better Business Bureau]
Romance Scams: Six Red Flags
Be on the lookout for these six red flags. If one or more occurs — think very carefully about your next steps, and seek the guidance of trusted family, friends, and/or experts.
- The individual in question is very far away.
- Their profile seems too good to be true.
- The relationship progresses very quickly.
- The individual in question breaks the promise to visit or meet up in person.
- They are in need of money (whatever the excuse).
- Even worse — they require one payment method in particular.
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Favorite Lies Used by Romance Scammers
Earlier this year, the FTC released the following list breaking down the most common lies utilized by romance scammers. Be on the lookout!
- I or someone close to me is sick, hurt, or in jail: 24%
- I can teach you how to invest: 18%
- I’m in the military far away: 18%
- I need help with an important delivery: 18%
- We’ve never met, but let’s talk about marriage: 12%
- I’ve come into some money or gold: 7%
- I’m on an oil rig or ship: 6%
- You can trust me with your private pictures: 3%
It’s important to stress that this list is not exhaustive — and even if the above appear, they may take a different form and use different word choices.
Romance Scams: Top Safety Tips
Be sure to:
- Take things slowly
- Set up a phone or video chat
- Be aware of red flags
- Carry out an informal background check if possible
- Ask trusted persons for guidance
- Feel safe and secure
- Stop communicating if in doubt
Be sure not to:
- Reveal excessive personal information
- Send sensitive pictures and other material
- Send money (or receive it)
- Believe everything you hear
- Buy travel tickets and/or gift cards
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This article was published in collaboration with Trend Micro
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